Framework for Collaborative Leadership
Framework for Collaborative Leadership
To celebrate the first decade of my leadership coaching, in 2018 I created a Framework for Collaborative Leadership, inspired by Charlotte Danielson’s “Framework for Teaching”. The quadrants capture and elaborate on four fundamental aspects of each leadership coaching conversation:
I. Preparation and mindset
II. Compassionate curiosity
III. Tools, techniques and protocols
IV.Debriefing what’s happened during the conversation
Navigating leadership takes curiosity, willingness, intentionality and practice. Take a look at the Framework. Click on the links. See what appeals/speaks to you. It’s a handy resource toolbox. Consider printing it and put in an easily accessible place as many of my clients do.
Every leadership conversation is different. So are you. You are constantly gauging what’s needed for a particular situation and code switching depending on what you hear, notice or need. This Framework allows you to stretch and strengthen your leadership prowess, learning from every encounter.
All leaders find the Breakthrough Conversations protocol particularly helpful. Susan Scott calls them “fierce” conversations. Jennifer Abrams calls them “difficult” conversations. I prefer ”breakthrough” because their intent is to transform a situation, a mindset, or a relationship.
Note: The Framework is intentionally a document, not a PDF. Because coaching Leadership is constantly evolving, a working document allows me to add new resources and fiddle with language as I notice and learn. I live by “everyone you meet is your teacher and your student”. I am gratefully beholden to my clients for their wisdom, experience and ideas.
Framework for Collaborative Leadership
I. Growth Mindset: Intentionally Showing Up
Showing up Physically
Breathing
Information receptors
Hydration
Posture
Showing up Emotionally/Socially: Rules of Engagement
Assume positive intent
Respect confidentiality
Practice curiosity: all ideas count
Suspend judgement
Be OK with raggedy and messy
Normalize discomfort
Speak up for Ouch! moments
Value silence
Showing up Mentally
4 Objectives: provoke learning, interrogate reality, develop relationships, tackle tough challenges
Principles of Improv Theatre: all ideas count; yes…and, make your partner look good
Other Considerations
Racial Autobiography;
Core Values;
Resources
II. A Culture of Compassionate Curiosity: Question/Listen/Assess/Respond
EQ: Emotional Intelligence
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs
Acknowledgement and Validation
Positive Listening: to and for
6 kinds: information, background, buy-in, venting, coaching, completing the past
Role of Formative and Summative
Staying in the moment
Awareness of Pronouns
Use of Parking Lot
Letting go of the outcome
Zone of Proximal Development (ZPD)
Impact of negative listening: inquisition; fixit; autobiographical; judgement/criticism
Open-ended questions
Choreography: Code Switching and Recalibration
Intent: Connect; Decide; Create; Lead
TMMAT (Tell Me More About That)
What should we start?... stop?... keep on doing?
What’s another way to look at this?
What’s going well? What could go better?
What have we learned? What else?
Folio Collaborative Questions
III. Tools, Techniques & Protocols: Doing the Work
7-38-55: words-tone-everything else
Macro/Micro-Aggression Awareness
7 Energy levels: victim, anger, responsibility, compassion, possibility, intuition, brilliance
Energy blockers. GAILs: gremlins, assumptions, interpretations, limiting beliefs
Getting Stuff Done (GSD) wheel: listen, clarify, debate, decide, persuade, execute, learn
Breakthrough Conversations. 10 steps: state the issue, 1-2 examples, emotions, what’s at stake, own responsibility, desire to resolve, invite response, discuss, learnings, agreed-upon action plan
20 Common Conversation Conundrums
SMARTE Planning. Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Reasonable, Equity-sensitive
Delegation tree (root, trunk, branch, leaf)
“Taking the pulse” techniques: Scaling; Museum walk; Venn Diagram; Magic Wand, Walk-arounds.
Macro-Aggression and Micro-Aggression Awareness
Leading Vs. Managing
IV. Debrief and Follow-up: Yourself and Others
During a conversation
Use of silence
Employing elements of Quadrants I. II. and III.
Personality types: Doers, Thinkers, Feelers
At the culmination of a conversation
Process observer
Resolutions/action plan
Exit ticket: triangle/square/circle
Round robin: one thing you’re going away with
Self-Reflection after the conversation
Emotional wake
Ratio of talking to listening
Timing
Patterns, underlying conundrums, unconscious bias
Follow-up conversation
“After thoughts” email
Face-to-face within a few days
Check-in
Debriefing Questions
“Experience trains the mind to live in the present and keep the past around for visits, to learn, remember and recharge”.
Caroline Hax
Next Steps
Feel free to contact me by text or email so that we can have an Exploratory Conversation. This enables you to see if what you are seeking fits what I offer and how comfortable you feel with my style of conversation. I do not charge for this conversation.
Ask to receive my Coaching Agreement. It enables you to understand the parameters of a leadership coaching partnership, including the fee structure. View coaching sessions as “tickets” to be used as you see fit. Generally, clients choose to talk once a month from July to June. Occasionally a situation arises that demands more frequent conversations. Summer months are particularly potent times to reflect and plan. Depending on the circumstances and geography, coaching sessions are by phone, Zoom, at your school or my home office.
Types of Services
Workshops and Presentations. Group gatherings enable a robust exploration of ideas. They can be as basic as “The Anatomy and Choreography Leadership Conversations” or pertain to an aspect of leadership that schools are grappling with. “Navigating Challenging Conversations” presentations include dealing with difficult interpersonal situations, parent partnership, and furthering racial/cultural understanding. It has been my good fortune to have been asked to present at the annual conferences of AIMS, NBOA, NAIS, AISGW, AISNE and work with dozens of schools across the US. Feel free to ask about or suggest other topic possibilities.
Group work. A signature of my practice is leading Mastermind Groups. Mastermind is a concept developed by Napoleon Hill who defines it as “the coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people who work toward a definite purpose in the spirit of harmony. No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind, the master mind.”For many years I have run three Mastermind groups for Middle Managers, Instructional Coaches and Heads of schools. We meet monthly during the school year to explore aspects of leadership that pertain to their roles. Using situations that participants are dealing with, the hour long discussions share a safe space to create understanding and practice tools and techniques that result in actionable outcomes.
References. I would be happy to provide a list of client schools upon request as well as names of individuals who could speak to the experience of working with me. The relationship of coach and client is vital.
Who I am…
Having lived in our turbulent nation’s capital since 1968, I’ve witnessed a good deal of history in the making. Washington is also a city of vibrant neighborhoods, including mine, Dupont Circle. I live in a cabin-like house designed by my late architect husband, Wieb, ten blocks from the White House where he and I raised our three sons who are now grown with children of their own. The vicissitudes of life have brought me the pleasure of exploring cultures here and abroad, including living for a formative year in Hong Kong.
Sudden widowhood in 2003 was a crucible moment. It allowed me to assess what matters, find inner resources and act with purpose and intention. After heading a progressive independent school -- Lowell School -- for 19 extraordinary years, I stepped down from leading a school and rewired my life by investing 2008-09 becoming a certified leadership coach. It’s a practice that suits, excites and fulfills me – and brings me hope for the future.
Rounding out my life are two opinionated cats, a half dozen grandchildren who keep me apprised about life, a couple of bee hives in my roof garden, a partner who enjoys singing, reading and travel as much as I do, many Zoom activities and a bevy of friends and neighbors.